Some Pharisees came, and to test him they asked, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?’ He answered them, ‘What did Moses command you?’ They said, ‘Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her.’ But Jesus said to them, ‘Because of your hardness of heart he wrote this commandment for you. But from the beginning of creation, “God made them male and female.” “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Mark 10:2-8

It is hard to talk about divorce. It is a sensitive subject and much suffering has been associated with it. One day we had a discussion about it at a clergy meeting. A wise clergy commented something interesting. He addressed the argument that rampant divorce was a recent phenomenon. He pointed out in the past espousal abuse and murder was abundant albeit still an actual problem. The possibility of divorce has improved the lives of many not to mention has saved many lives. My clergy friend has been happily married for more than thirty years. He wasn’t defending something personal. He was and is a person who confronts reality as it is. He is not saying divorce is a good thing. It is a tragic reality but a necessary one. This is really the issue here. Jesus confronted the harsh reality of life. He read the Law in a compassionate manner recognizing the frailty of our human nature. However, He did not compromise God’s perfect and holy will. He did not say God turns a blind eye on our failures. His presence in the world is to reconcile this discrepancy between our human reality and God’s perfect Law.

In a way, this gospel episode is very relatable to our ministry. Many people are appalled when they hear about children and teenagers living and sleeping in the streets. We have been here for some time now and we are still disturbed by it. Some people say that a child should be in a safe environment with adults to orient and help them. They should get a proper education and they are right. There are tons of things that should be done for the sake of the children and teens but, unfortunately, this is not the reality. In every country children and teens are constantly neglected and abused on a daily basis. Many suffer things that none of us want to imagine. Our children and teens live in the streets because they found a way to escape these things. In countries where there are no homeless children and teens they still have tons of broken children and teens who suffer without any reprieve. This is the sad reality of life. The hardness of the human heart prevails in every society. Jesus confronts the ugliness present in every human society. God’s Law are given for us to have an abundant life but our hearts are not always attuned with His goodness.

I don’t believe that humans are inherently evil. Some churches teach this doctrine. However, if we were inherently evil, then people would never respond to any goodness in the world. No one would flock to Jesus. He would have been murdered the very moment He appeared with His message. Jesus recognized that people are good but at the same time there was a problem in humanity. St Paul expressed our human dilemma perfectly in Romans 7:19-20,

“For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do. Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I that do it, but sin that dwells within me.”

God sent His Son into the world because He knew that people want to be good but their hearts lead them the wrong way. The ministry of Jesus is to reconcile us with God’s divine Law. He said that He did not come to change God’s Law. He came to show us how we can overcome our weaknesses. Therefore, the big question is how do we overcome our sinful nature which insists on walking down the wrong road?

“Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it.” Mark 10:15

A superficial reading of this gospel episode could give someone the idea that the author has a problem with attention. He appeared to have changed the subject from divorce to the acceptance of our children in Jesus’ fold. However, the author is constructing an argument. The Pharisees have a problem with Jesus because they were trying to trap Him into their way of reasoning and thinking about the world. However, in order for us to understand Jesus we need to abandon our old mindset and embrace the new. An old wineskin cannot contain new wine. In order to embrace the new, Jesus tells us that we need to become like children.

Recent research in neuroscience tells us that a brain of a child under five is much more advanced and sophisticated than the most advanced computer that we have now. A child’s brains can absorb and process information about the world at a faster and more efficient rate independently than any computer. A computer is completely dependent on an outside party for these processes. During Jesus’ time, this knowledge wasn’t available. However, adults knew that children could not be included in adult matters because they were still in the process of organizing their world view and understanding of humanity. Perhaps they didn’t use such words to express this but they had the same idea. No one then thought children were innocent and pure. This is just a romantic notion of modern times. Ask any school teacher and they will tell you that children can be quite scary. In the streets, most of the homeless adults are afraid of homeless children under 12 and we completely understand. They are usually the most cruel and dangerous ones mainly because they have yet to understand the consequences of their actions. They know stuff; in the streets unfortunately they know how to do bad things, but they don’t quite understand how everything is linked together.

The disciples did not allow the children to come to Jesus because they thought that they do not have the capacity to figure out who Jesus is. Our Lord rebuked them for this rational action on their part.

We, modern people, can look to neuroscience to help us understand why Jesus disagreed with them. Research on the subject at this time tells us that children look to the adults to help them organize all this information that they receive from their senses and experiences. They watch adults deal with the world and formulate their own mindset based on it. The children flocked to Jesus because they saw in Him someone whom they would like to become. They wanted to formulate their worldview according to His way of thinking. Jesus recognized this and He not only welcomed them but said that we should all become like them. In order for us to understand the Kingdom of God we need to have a mindset organized around the character and life of our Lord, Jesus Christ.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2

Many times Jesus confronted the spirituality of Pharisees showing that they displayed a religiosity that was not any different from the pattern of this world. His death on the Cross, based on their lies and manipulation of the crowds, revealed this more clearly than anything else. None of us reading this can undo the values of the world implanted in us by ourselves. Perhaps we can do something to stop feeding them by not listening to people like the Pharisees who twist and manipulate God’s Law to fit their view of the world. However, there is a more positive way to transform our mindset. It is by following the example of Jesus’ life. Jesus told us that He did not come to condemn the world but to save it. The word, ‘save’ can also be understood as to heal. Maybe it might help us understand better how to walk in His footsteps if we substitute the word for healing. Jesus healed many in His ministry. He always sought to find those who needed healing and many times they found Him even when it was inconvenient for Him. His healing ministry allowed Him to see the harsh reality of our existence. He saw how people were abandoned and left on their own. He saw the hardness of the human heart but He overcame it with love and compassion. The Pharisees resolved this situation by separating and condemning these people as hopeless sinners. This is very much aligned with the ways of this world. However, God’s ways are different. He addresses the harsh and brutal realities of Life and He shows how to live our lives in a way that will reconcile our human fragility with the perfect Love of God. He showed us the path of Life, albeit a difficult one. It is a straight and narrow path but one filled with grace, compassion and forgiveness.

Jesus knew the hardness of our hearts and yet He believed in our capacity and desire to be good. He treated us as such. Perhaps this might explain why Judas was among His apostles. Despite knowing what Judas would do, Jesus still believed that he had all the potential to be good. This is something hard for our human nature to comprehend but Jesus thinks differently from us. His mind is conformed to the Love and Mercy of God the Father. We need to become more like Him in order to understand the good news of the gospel. Unfortunately, we are still taunted by the persistent mindset of the world. We need not fret. God’s grace and forgiveness will help us to become like little children and transform our minds to think and act like our Lord and Saviour.